For every negative interaction during conflict, a stable and happy relationship has 5+ positive interactions.

Putting your relationship first often becomes more difficult during times of stress and the lack of connection with each other deepens wounds over time. You might find yourself feeling disconnected from your partner, even though you have encountered and managed transitions in the past.

Remember that even a positive change in one’s life (e.g. a wanted pregnancy, an exciting job opportunity, etc.) is a stressor.

Research has shown that conflict is a normal part of a relationship, but the way couples fight and how conflict is addressed matters. With increased contempt and unresolved conflict comes decreased intimacy and romance and increased criticism and irritability. Prolonged stressors and change in one’s basic needs (e.g. adequate sleep) strain connection even further.

When we change the ways we interact and connect with each other, we also build security and safety in our relationships.

The journey to parenthood can further impact a relationship in many ways, as often differences between partners are intensified during this time of constant change. Research has shown that first-time parents argue 40% more after their child is born. Relationship challenges can occur among couples who are trying to decide whether to have children, are struggling to become parents, navigating the ups and down of pregnancy and postpartum, or have experienced a perinatal loss.